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How To Stop Overthinking

As a general rule, thinking is a good thing, right? ;-)

But, some people overthink everything, and others don’t think enough… so how can you get the balance right?

Unfortunately, it is possible to think yourself into anxiety, frustration, and even illness. So, if you have the ability to make things that should be simple, complex; or a minor issue, a major drama, you could be damaging your health, and it’s time to stop.

Remember, it’s a real waste of your time and talent to over-analyze everything and everyone. It’s actually called “analysis paralysis,” or the over-analyzing of a situation so that a decision or action is never taken. Not good!

But, what exactly can you do to stop this overthinking?

7 Ways To Deal With Overthinking

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1. Forget Perfection

It doesn’t exist, so don’t waste your time waiting around for that perfect time, condition, or whatever, because before you know it your ambitious will have passed you by. We should all be aiming to improvement our life, but don’t allow a need for perfection to get in the way of actually living your life to the fullest.

2. Just Do It

Remember that old analysis paralysis I mentioned above? Well, instead of overthinking everything and never actually taking action, just get out there and do stuff… now! Especially if it scares you — don’t let fear run your life.

3. Be In The Moment

It’s not always possible, but focusing on what’s in front of you is much better than allowing your mind to dwell way back in the past, or indeed, to worry about what’s around the next corner. You can’t change it, so live in the moment.

4. Be Honest

It’s easy to fall into the trap of rationalizing why you do or don’t do certain things to anyone who will listen, but honesty is refreshing.

5. Get A Mentor

You might have a friend who is a great lister, or even your very own coach. But it should be someone who will be able to give you honest, meaningful, specific, and relevant advice, not someone who will tell you what you want to hear. This can be hugely helpful — two heads really are better than one.

6. Change Position

When you find yourself starting to overthink something again, try getting up and changing your position; perhaps go for a walk, or call a friend. Studies actually show that a new vantage point can be enough to shake you out of a fruitless and harmful thought process.

7. Avoid Overthinkers

If you have friends or colleagues who also worry way too much about everything, try to stay out of their way as much as possible. Instead, spend time with positive thinkers, since they will have a much better impact on your mind.

Are you an overthinker? What methods do you use to help overcome the tendency for overthinking?



7 Comments

  1. Ruth

    07.28.2011

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    This was an interesting article Mel…. Springs to mind 2 ladies whom I have come in contact with through my work. They worry and overthink about everybody and everyone! I have learned that I cannot help these people verbally. I just listen. Difficult and wearying but sad too.

    • Melanie

      08.04.2011

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      Yes, I know what you mean Ruth. It’s so so difficult to stop overthinking everything if that’s how you’ve always been. I have friends like this too, as you say, listening is pretty much the best thing you can do.

  2. Glenn

    08.09.2011

    Reply

    Hmmm….interesting article.

    Must go and think about a comment to make…

    :)

    • Melanie

      08.18.2011

      Reply

      lol Glenn :-D

  3. african mangoes

    08.20.2011

    Reply

    i think therefore i am. Thanks for this article really made me think about worrying about too much that i almost always end up with nothing done.

    • Melanie

      08.24.2011

      Reply

      I’m glad you found this article, it’s certainly a trap many people fall into. But we need to remind ourselves of the futility of overthinking everything.

  4. Mia

    09.17.2011

    Reply

    THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS ARTICLE!!! :) )

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